An amazing bed is the ultimate life partner. In the same turn if you want to look at why your partner isn't suiting your life look at your bed. Chances are bad mattress - bad marriage or the like.

Beds say so much about the state of your love life.

For example in a case of life imitating furniture a good bed head is hard to find and an exceptional one can seem near impossible.

People look for all different types of things. I like an intricate bed frame with enough room to be able to do at least three roles and not fall out the other side.

Still when it comes to sharing your life with something a bed of a high standard will set you up on sturdy legs.

A better bed does so much. For one it makes you picky about who shares it with you.

A top shelf bed will always be in demand. When you find yourself out thinking of nothing but the feeling of sliding between your crisp cotton sheets, rolling onto your back and letting out a satisfied sigh before you whisper to the roof "it's good to be back," you have to think,

"Who cares if the person lying next to you thinks you are talking to them. A good bed is good for your relationship."

You both wake up saying,

"I love you." It does not matter if it's actually the bed you are both talking to initially. Some couples have common interests, you have your bed!

Also, when you are in a healthy relationship with your mattress you are less likely to let someone else treat you like one.

You become fussy - your bed is a VIP and hence not just anyone can score a ticket to the party.

A well maintained bed is like a dating service. Let's call it cometobed.com

When your resting digs are in phenomenal shape you don't need to invite people - they want to come. All you do is open the door.

The only problem with something exceptional is you need to have a very strict guest list. No name - no entry. You also don't want to let people who try to talk their way in to your bed in under any exceptions.

Why? People who talk too much often have beds that do the same. Nothing worse than a bed that won't shut up. Every time you look sideways it has something to say about it in a creaky fashion.

The same goes for insomniacs. A person who finds it hard to sleep will more often than not find lying down in your big brass comfortable bed a bit of a turn on and this can be time consuming.

Picture it - instead of the uncomfortable morning after that happens for most people with crap beds, a morning when normally someone realises they don't like the crap bed or it's owner and want to go home to their own palace, they instead wake up to find beautiful sheets, a nice firm mattress and their usually tense left shoulder having never felt better. Oh, what would it hurt to have another nap, maybe a cup of tea?

Mmm, sometimes a sofa bed can mean you'll make your nail appointment! Just putting it out there.

However, usually the bed in your life symbolises who is in it with you more than your realise.

A couple of years ago I slept on a bed that kept breaking because its structure was built of very shaky material. Then I threw a bed out and got a wonderful mattress with no base. It was on the floor but it was transient and fun, but not settled.

After a while I no longer needed to be transient so I took my mattress and bought a beautiful base for it to go on.

I strongly recommend you doing some bed therapy. Look at your bed and who its occupants have been. If it's not that great branch out and make your bed the hottest thing in your life!

It's not who you sleep with that's important it's the quality of what you sleep on!

Email me, Emma-Kate Dobbin
editor@tootstar.com